IS THERE A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL?
YES …. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Let me tell you how I discovered it.
Many years ago, about three years after my husband’s suicide, I fell apart. I lost my job. There were days when I left my home and slept in my neighbour’s garage. This was not because she would not let me in or help me if needed, it was because I felt safe nowhere. Eventually, I ran away from home, the home I shared with my best friend and I caused much worry. Therapy was needed!
I lived in Toronto and there was therapy available. The Suicide Therapy program was available to me and provided by people who had lived through a loss to suicide. It was only 8 sessions. At the the end of it they referred me on to a doctor who helped me more than anyone I have known. I participated in weekly group therapy Dr. Michael Pare every Saturday for 2.5 years. There is a reason I share this and that is because it was during this therapy that I came to the conclusion I stated above! THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL AND YOU CAN CONTROL THAT LIGHT … at the right time!
One day on my way from Toronto to Georgetown I had what can only be explained as an AHA moment. I had to pull over to the side of the road. It hit me like a brick falling on my head. I realized I had some control in how my illness proceeded. I realized I could in some way stop myself from getting as bad as it was. My will could participate in my getting well again and although it was not at all simple, I could choose!!
So, let me explain. I did not see this option when I was so sick that I ran away from home and it took drugs and therapy to improve my situation so that I could. Since then, with periods of wellness and illness, I have willfully been able to have, if only at times, a tad of control. During this last episode of PTSD sleep deprivation started the slide and there were times I knew I had control yet was not able to exercise. My thinking was just not clear enough. I knew I had to reach out immediately and get help. My Primary Care Practitioner and Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA) Cambridge assisted me to set up therapy and start my path back to feeling better.
Let my pare this down to smaller events in life, as not all of us suffer from such mental health issues. Most of us have stress in our lives and sometimes it is hard to see how we can improve our situation. COVID is a really good example of this as it is affecting all of us right now. It seems to us that we have no control in this situation, but we do! We can affect how we see this and other issues by changing our perception. Self-care is one way that we can improve our situation. When we take care of ourselves we often can see things in a brighter light. SELF-CARE TO BE THE BEST YOU can help you with this.
Christmas is coming and we will not be able to spend it with our family at large, yet this too can be put into perspective to allow for more light. By staying in and not sharing Christmas with all of our family, we can help to ensure the health of each and every one of us so that next year we can be together. This perceptions brings light to the end of the tunnel.
I am in no way trying to belittle problems. Problems are real. Trials in life are real. Illness is real. Perspective is not always easily reachable. My point is that if you can find that spot where there is choice and TAKE TIME TO REMEMBER HOW IT FEELS, you can reflect on that when you need help again and you may be able to find this light inside you!
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